Whenever you are about to say something, say it out of love.
Here comes an opinion, and your mind is so sharp that you already know what you are about to say, how would your words sound and what expression will be on your face. You can even imagine what will happen next and what would other person answer you.
Instead, take a deep breath in, and then one more time, if you can, close your eyes. And then imagine someone who you hold very highly, who you respect, who you think is the source of great wisdom, or light, or knowledge, or experience. Someone who is the greatest for you, who is inspiring you to be your better self. Mother Teresa, Buddha, your grandfather, Dalai Lama, yoga teacher, school teacher, your beloved. Imagine that you are this person right now. Imagine what this someone would say instead of you. How would he say it, what words would he choose. Try to do it out of your heart rather than your mind. Try to speak with responding from your open heart, your inner bottomless silent presence in here and now. Try to respond not trying to win or prove but rather share and open, like if you are hugging this person in front of you, only you are doing it with just your words.
Try to answer and speak out of love, heart, light. Often you will understand there is no need to really say out loud, sometimes just a smile or a real hug is enough.
It’s really easy, by the way. Literally, next time you find yourself in an argument, just close your eyes and see yourself as that someone else, and then speak. You will be surprised :)
Here comes an opinion, and your mind is so sharp that you already know what you are about to say, how would your words sound and what expression will be on your face. You can even imagine what will happen next and what would other person answer you.
Instead, take a deep breath in, and then one more time, if you can, close your eyes. And then imagine someone who you hold very highly, who you respect, who you think is the source of great wisdom, or light, or knowledge, or experience. Someone who is the greatest for you, who is inspiring you to be your better self. Mother Teresa, Buddha, your grandfather, Dalai Lama, yoga teacher, school teacher, your beloved. Imagine that you are this person right now. Imagine what this someone would say instead of you. How would he say it, what words would he choose. Try to do it out of your heart rather than your mind. Try to speak with responding from your open heart, your inner bottomless silent presence in here and now. Try to respond not trying to win or prove but rather share and open, like if you are hugging this person in front of you, only you are doing it with just your words.
Try to answer and speak out of love, heart, light. Often you will understand there is no need to really say out loud, sometimes just a smile or a real hug is enough.
It’s really easy, by the way. Literally, next time you find yourself in an argument, just close your eyes and see yourself as that someone else, and then speak. You will be surprised :)
